Each of us deserves a fulfilling life which satisfies our needs. Sometimes we find that a whole range of difficulties which are rooted in our feelings and emotions stand in the way of our living spontaneously and with happiness and fulfillment.
Often we find ourselves in a situation where we repeat recurring patterns of behaviour or habits that keep us from being the way we want to be and leading the life we want to experience. Such ways of being can wreak havoc in our lives and cause us often to sabotage the very relationships in others that we seek to create.
Counselling and Therapy are both ‘talking therapies’, or in other words, conversations between therapist and client. These dialogues attempt to bring into focus those aspects of a person’s life that cause distress, confusion or lead us to feel blocked, stuck or unfulfilled. When we clarify these areas it becomes easier to make choices about those things that we may wish to change or understand more fully. Coming to terms with things that we cannot change can also be part of the process.
A major event, such as bereavement or a relationship breakdown might be the prompt, or depression or anxiety may be making our lives very difficult. There could even be a desire to identify and break unhealthy patterns of behaviour. Often people are not really clear about why they want to have counselling – many people experience a general sense of unhappiness, anxiety or dissatisfaction and use counselling as a way of finding out what these feelings could mean. In short, there are no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ reasons – there merely has to be a willingness to take a closer look at those concerns that we cannot easily make sense of by ourselves.
There is often confusion about the terms counselling and psychotherapy, but in reality there are no specific differences between the two. They can both focus on a single issue or a range of concerns, and be either short or long-term in duration. Often the term “psychotherapy” is used to refer to longer term generalised work, whereas the term “counselling” can used to describe shorter term and more specific work. It seems that nowadays the two terms are used interchangeably to describe the same process.