The simple act of talking things through with a trained listener can be the very thing we need to start moving forward .
“Sometimes, just the act of venting is helpful. Counseling provides a safe haven for precisely that kind of free-ranging release: You can say things in the therapist’s office, with the therapist present, that would be incendiary or hurtful in your living room.”
Counselling is a talking therapy which helps to resolve areas where you are blocked in emotional patterns which stop you moving forward and living life to the full
It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.
Your concerns are as unique as you are:-
Professional counselling and EMDR for individuals and couples
Counselling and Therapy are both ‘talking therapies’, or in other words, conversations between therapist and client. These dialogues attempt to bring into focus those aspects of a person’s life that cause distress, confusion or lead us to feel blocked, stuck or unfulfilled
When we deny the story it defines us. When own it we can write a brave new ending”
We live in unprecedented times. The restrictions imposed on us all to manage the spread of Covid19 have had a huge impact on society and ourselves as indivIduals. Many of us are anxious about job security and the wider impact of lockdown on the economy. There is also a collective uncertainty about the future which is affecting our relationships and our emotional well being. Many of us are isolated and finding it hard to manage our mental health and can’t access face to face therapy.
I am therefore offering a discount of £5 per session off my normal fee on blocks of six online counselling sessions. These will allow you to talk about your concerns about the impact of the crisis on your life and to help find a way forward as well as ease the effect of isolation.
Many people are a little nervous about pursuing on-line/telephone counselling at first, but most report that after a few minutes it can feel like you are in the room with the counsellor in the same way as with face-to-face work.
I am experienced in both face-to-face work and online counselling and therapy.
I currently offer Relational Psychotherapy, AF-EMDR Therapy and separately Couples Therapy in East London. What I offer as individual therapy has evolved into an approach which quickly gets to the heart of your issues; it offers a range of ways of working to try to accurately match your need and in the most effective and time efficient way. My approach is both friendly and warm. Therapy tends to be refreshingly brief and, as far as possible, an enjoyable/rewarding experience, particularly when long standing issues have been completely resolved.
AF-EMDR is a highly effective treatment often used to treat depression, anxiety, pain management and the effect of painful memories from our past. It is a proven technique to overcome the legacy of abuse from childhood or deeply upsetting experiences which have remained stored in the system for instance the effects of being “othered” or “childhood bullying” which can affect your ability to fully enjoy life.
Often the trauma is so severe that it disrupts the normal functioning of the brain and leads to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder in which flashbacks, panic or general discomfort are so invasive that everyday life becomes unbearable. Experiences such as war, childhood trauma, surgical trauma, accidents and other deeply distressing events can be processed and released during an EMDR session.
As a result of the process people report that they gain new and clearer perspectives on themselves and their life situation as their self-acceptance and value in relation to the world begins to emerge. Many of the people who attend my sessions have strong emotions and feel that they cannot cope. Through working together in a supportive environment necessary solutions emerge to gain the clarity and freedom to move forward in life.
Your concerns are as unique as you are and some of the areas people approach me for help with are: • couples counselling with heterosexual and same sex couples • relating to others in close relationships and social situations • breaking unwanted patterns of behaviour that are destructive or keep us stuck • developing greater self-esteem and confidence in expressing ourselves • working with feelings of loneliness and isolation • working with the LGBT community
Also: Depression – Stress and Anxiety – Anger – Work issues – Childhood issues – Parenting issues – Personal Growth and Development – Personal Loss and Bereavement – Eating Disorders – Infertility – Couples Counselling – Relationship Counselling – Sexual Compulsivity.
Just the skillful act of of another person attempting to get how we feel and validating that; is both liberating and empowering
“There are many ways of getting strong, sometimes talking is the best way.”
My Service and your questions
The points underneath will tell you more about my practice and hopes to answer your questions about counselling and cost etc.
- Out-of-control emotions may be a sign of an issue that can improve with professional support. “If you’re eating or sleeping more or less than usual, withdrawing from family and friends, or just feeling “off,” talking to someone before serious problems develop that impact your quality of life is often the way forward
- Maybe your concentration is shot, or your enthusiasm and drive for getting things done is simply not there any more. Maybe you avoid any interaction with your classmates or coworkers, or maybe you’re just feeling plain overwhelmed. If the way you felt, or whatever is causing you to function poorly in one of these environments, for weeks on end, that’s a sure sign it’s time to seek out help.
- Sometimes our own coping skills fail us. They simply stop working, or become far less effective than they were in the past. If you’ve tried a half dozen different things already — talk to a friend, exercise more, seek out support online, read up on various self-help techniques online — and nothing has made much of a difference, that may be a sign it’s time to talk to a therapist.
Friends and family members are usually pretty great. They are there for us when times are good, and they are there for us when times are bad. If you need to bend someone’s ear about the feelings or thoughts you’re having, a friend is often close at hand. But sometimes a friend can also feel overwhelmed by your problems. They start to pull away from seeing you. They don’t answer your texts or don’t take your call. They stop returning emails, or spend days before you hear a reply (with no explanation). These may be signs that you’ve overwhelmed your own social support system. It’s time to reach out and talk to someone who’s job it is is to listen, and offer tools and techniques to improve your life.
When the going gets tough, many people turn to their trusted mood-altering substance of choice — such as alcohol, cigarettes, or some drug. There’s nothing wrong with that1 when done in moderation. But when we’re feeling overwhelmed, sometimes we look to one of those helpers and start over-using it. We risk adding another disorder to our existing problems in an effort to self-medicate. And it’s not just drugs that people will abuse to help alleviate their symptoms. Spending all of your free time online, engaging in non-stop pornography or gambling, or constantly checking your Facebook updates may all be efforts to block out your other problems. Worse is when we turn our angst or anger toward another person in our lives, such as a loved one. Some people lash out or make their loved one’s life miserable as a way of trying to feel better about themselves.
Have your friends or co-workers tried to say something to you? This one is obvious — but sometimes we simply ignore the most obvious signs in our lives. Maybe it was a friend who pulled you aside one day and said, “Hey, is everything okay? I notice you seem to be really struggling lately… maybe you should talk to someone?” Or a partner who’s said, “Look, you need help. You haven’t been yourself in weeks. Nothing I do seems to help, and in fact, we just seem to be getting worse.” Even coworkers and classmates may have noticed and made a small attempt to let you know they think you may need someone to talk to.
Sometimes it can feel as though we have lost the ability to relate to our partner. We might feel angry, frustrated and deeply hurt that they don’t seem to hear what we are trying to say……..and sometimes, they might feel the same! It might be that you feel betrayed and are unable to imagine ever getting past these feelings.
Counselling can offer a safe environment in which, facilitated by the therapist, you can be guided to freely express your feelings and feel secure enough to assert your needs openly and honestly.
Blame can become a significant part of a relationship that is in conflict, and both partners might really need to feel heard and appreciated before they can begin to let go of resentment. In couple’s coaching, you can learn new ways of communicating with each other. This might even mean that you can find a way to accept each other’s difficult feelings without necessarily trying to change them. You might begin to find ways of understanding the others perspective and resolving the conflict so that you are able to show care and kindness to each other again. Whilst there might clearly be big issues that feel insurmountable, it isn’t always necessary to agree on everything in order to live together in peace and harmony.
There can be an assumption that only couples who have been together for a significant amount of time can benefit from couples coaching, however, I also see couples who are at the beginning of a relationship and are noticing difficult issues beginning to surface. If this is your relationship and you feel determined not to repeat the patterns that might have proved problematic in previous relationships, then early intervention from couples coaching might really help to change this.
Counselling is undertaken on a short, mid or long term basis. For a single issue the counselling is usually short term, but more often where there are several issues, I usually work on a mid or long term basis, so 16-20 sessions or more if necessary.
In the case of couples coaching. Usually this involves 6 – 12 sessions.
Often people come to counselling with a unclear general feeling of confusion about the way their life is going but don’t always know what is causing this. Time with your counsellor is a way for you to work out what this confusion and lack of clarity actually means and for you to gain insight into your life and feel restored again.
Our initial session is for us to explore the possibility of working together using the counselling process. It is important that the counsellor you choose feels right for you and this initial (without obligation) session is important in helping you to decide whether I am indeed the best fit for you as a counsellor. If we agree to work together then for individual counselling you will be agreeing to attend weekly 50 minute sessions initially eventually moving to fortnightly sessions until we agree to end our working together.
Counselling will involve listening carefully to who you are and finding an approach which fits you in your uniqueness in a human and respectful way. This means in essence that rather than trying to direct you to change, I will create an accepting environment to enable you to explore the issues you bring to counselling. In this way solutions and change will begin to arise from your own wisdom in a gentle and natural way by allowing your own deep wisdom to emerge as a result of this gentle and accepting approach to you as a whole person which values you as a unique individual. We will look at how you relate to people in the both your present life and how you did so in the past and we will explore the relationship that exists between both of us in the counselling relationship to gain greater understanding and choice of how you engage with the world around you.
As a result of the process people report that they gain new and clearer perspectives on themselves and their life situation as their self-acceptance and valuing of themselves in relation to the world begins to emerge. Many of the people who attend my sessions have strong emotions and feel that they cannot cope with their lives. We will work together as a team in a supportive environment to allow whatever solutions need to emerge to move forward in your life again with greater clarity and freedom.
For Couples Coaching please refer to the information the above section.
Counselling – something that provides direction or advice as to a decision or course of action counseling, guidance, counsel, direction road map, guideline – a detailed plan or explanation to guide you in setting standards or determining a course of action;
“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are all in harmony”
Please see below for my current pricing structure for self-funded clients.
EAPs and Insurance companies please contact me separately for pricing structure
per 50 minutes session
per 75 minutes session
EMDR Smoking Cessation
per two session course
The counselling process is a structured dialogue between a counsellor and a client. It is a cooperative process in which a trained professional listener helps the speaker to identify sources of difficulties or concerns that he or she is experiencing and celebrate the person they are in all their uniqueness
“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves”.